I've never had an orgasm- I'm going to ask you to please not make other suggestions as to the possible issue/reasons/other things to try. I've seen doctors, read endlessly, tried everything and those responses will only make me frustrated and feel worse about myself. So please stick to just my question.

I'm in an absolutely wonderful and loving new relationship. I haven't been in a relationship for years and I guess since then, I'm even more sexually dead than I already was. Before, licking my clit would be too intense and not pleasurable. Now it feels like nothing. I can get wet still, but don't actually feel any arousal either. (I've got more appts with docs scheduled but last doc said hormone levels were fine).

My partner is incredibly generous with oral so I'd like to try an arousal gel so maybe I can at least get some feeling. Safe with condoms would be ideal.

I did see a previous post by a mod from a few months ago but there was no specification of whether the few suggestions made were edible. But at least from that post I gleaned that maybe CBD over menthol is preferable? But any suggestion is welcome. TIA.

Edit: by edible I meant safe and pleasant for oral