This might be all over the place so I apologize

I (32F) have been out of a relationship for almost 4yrs now, and because of that I haven’t been intimate in awhile. I honestly haven’t put a real effort into dating (maybe 6 dates total within that time frame) all situations went no where and nothing physical happened. I’m on the brink of moving somewhere new, and I would like to put myself out there again on a more serious level.

I maybe in my head about it but, it kind of sunk in that the last person I was intimate with was my (then) fiancé, I had known him since I was 17 so the familiarity was established. And even when him and I weren’t together I had other partners and I was never freaking out about having sex or the potential of it being on the table, then again I was younger but still. I am a person who enjoys sex and it is something that is usually incorporated into my relationships, but I’m having a serious mental block.

I suddenly feel shy? Like the body is willing but the mind is running away from the idea. I don’t know how to be sexy or alluring. & I definitely don’t know what I would do if it was ever on the table again, besides blush and run away lol.

Has anyone else gone thru this after a long time of being TRULY single and inactive? How did you combat these thoughts or this hump?

I do plan to go to therapy lol in case there’s another reason I’m not addressing outside of general fear.