I'm (M31) not really sure who to ask this question to but I ask it genuinely. Long story short I'm kinda know for being a horrible fuck and generally "unexciting" to the people in my group of friends. There is no chance of me changing this reputation among them now so I have started to kinda just agree with anything people say that alludes to my sexual failures or lack of masculinity. It's not like they're lying or anything and I'm trying to accept and embrace myself, including my failures. Some of them are kinda pathetic and sad but they are a part of me and I don't wanna start lying about myself, especially when the truth is already out there.
I've just gotten mixed opinions on this approach so far. Is this approach the key to me finally understanding that sex doesn't matter and I am who I am and how I perform and what people say is not important? I've been told that many times, especially on Reddit, and maybe that's true but nothing I've tried has been able to truly hammer home that message. Either way thank you for giving me a place to put this thought.