With it being the new year and the time for resolutions and goals I’ve been wondering about what habits and behaviours I could add to my day to day life to hopefully bring more sexual activity into my life.

Bit of background… I’m 39, married for 13 years to my 38f wife with 3 kids. Out of the two of us I have the higher libido and with the pressures of work and general family life my wife is more take it or leave it with regards to sex. The sex we have is good but she could happily go weeks without. In the past I think I’ve seen her as a puzzle to solve and that I’ll eventually stumble upon something which will make her more interested in sex. I have a huge fantasy of watching her with someone else but when I’ve mentioned this I’m not sure she thinks I’m being serious!

Anyway, before I digress too much I’m now wondering if I should be looking more at myself. I wfh so do plenty of the household chores and help with the kids etc so it’s by no means all left to her. I’m also planning on joining a gym this week as I figure investing in my own health and getting into better shape can’t be a bad thing.

But are there any other habits I could adopt that would potentially help make my life more sexually fulfilling? We live in a small village so aren’t exactly surrounded by sex clubs or exciting opportunities that seem common on Reddit!