Hey there! 32m here. Married for 7 years. My wife and I are sexually experienced but we’ve learned the bulk of what we know together. My first piece of advice is to communicate with your partner. Always. Explain you’re new and this will be your first. Ask her to be patient with her. Next up, wear protection, always. Try to bring lube. Now onto the important part;

Foreplay: this is bar none the most important part. It sets the mood for everything. I suggest some Spotify playlist made for sex or wordless music in the background as it will help quell anxiety. Foreplay isn’t just fingering and oral, and forget what you saw in porn. Foreplay should be full body. I typically like to spend 30-45 minutes on foreplay and I give my partner an orgasm here before penetration, and I’ll explain why shortly. You should focus on erogenous zones before even touching her vagina. These zones are areas on the body that are packed with nerves that lead straight to the groin, and when touched they stimulate sexual arousal. These areas are the toes, soles of the feet, inside of the thighs, hips/waist, abs, breasts, armpits, fingers, wrists, collarbone, small of the back, neck, lips and ears. Plenty to choose from and you should stimulate ALL of them. You can suck, lick, nibble, light bites, grab, caress ect. Let her know her whole body is attractive and you care for her pleasure. When you’re ready, oral should be next. Pay attention to the labia majora and labia minora. Gentle teasing kisses around them, trace your tongue through them and glide across the vaginal entersnce before making your way to the clit. Google where it is if you don’t know. The clit has a hood, so use your tongue and gently glide around it, over it, and swirl it gently. Plant light kisses on and around it while you take a second to breathe at times. Every woman is different so experiment with different pressures with your tongue, and different speeds. COMMUNICATE and ask her what feels good. Make sure she’s enjoying herself. Listen to her breathing, her moans, feel her body movements and find what she enjoys. If she says she likes something, don’t mix it up. When you’re ready for fingering, introduce one finger, palm up. 2-3 inches inside on the top vaginal wall is a ribbed spot that will feel spongy. This is the g-spot. It’s an internal extension of the clit. It is extremely sensitive. Experiment with different motions. Like gentle pressure moving upwards, and the come hither motion. When she’s ready, introduce a second. Typically the middle finger and ring finger while the index and pinky are outside resting on the labia. I find that it’s best if I don’t move my fingers in and out, just the come hither motion with good pressure on the g-spot while stimulating with oral. Your jaw may get tired, so might your fingers. If this is the case, pull back to breathe and pay attention to other areas on her body. Foreplay creates a process called vaginal tenting. This is when the inside of the vagina dialates by 2-3 inches to better accommodate fingers, a toy or penis. This is how women get ready and prepared for sex, and you’ll realize this by the vagina becoming pinker, puffy and wet. the absolute best thing to do to help them is to give them an orgasm prior to penetration.

When you’re ready and when she’s ready and consents (always get consent before doing anything), position yourself over. I won’t get too detailed, everyone does sex differently and you’ll learn your method as you get more practice. But some simple tips, first put a pillow under her butt if she’s on her back. This will help stimulate the g-spot with penetration. & don’t just jackhammer. Start out slow and passionate. Go slowly while kissing other areas or caressing other areas that you have access to. You can support yourself on an elbow and use the other hand to hold her cheek while you kiss, to fondle her breasts, or to gently rub her labia and clit while you penetrate her. If you feel you’re going to cum and you’re not ready to, which is suuuuuper normal you first few times or if it’s been too long since your last session, stop, and go back or oral and foreplay. You can try different positions but always ask first. I hope this helps even a little! Also u/Glittering_Ad3111 has great advice too ^{.^}