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Me (18F) and my boyfriend (18M) have been dating for almost a year. We both lost our virginity to each other so obviously not having any experience before might be making this worse. I have never orgasmed with him before (I lied that i did like twice.. which is bad but i felt bad…and he’s already insecure). I’m also on antidepressants and other meds which I heard can make “getting wet” and orgasming next to impossible. but when im on my own i use a vibrator for clitoral stimulation and i can orgasm (still have issues with getting wet) — I don’t know how to bring up the idea of using toys when we have sex because he’s mentioned how weird he thinks vibrators are (without me saying anything at all btw) . but genuinly I don’t want to keep faking it it’s so exhausting and I also don’t want to hurt his ego and whatnot — but I think that me considering toys with him will make him feel “not good enough”. our sexual dynamic is that of i take full control and he’s submissive to me but i still am afraid to voice any issues — im so scared he’ll just shut down etc. I just don’t know what to do and im very tired of not feeling fulfilled when i make him finish every time.i just need help on what i could do to help us both out , I know maybe it’s not that serious but I think my fake moans and fake orgasms are real damaging and not good feedback….
Hey there! In my opinion an orgasm should never be faked. Make them put in the work to get there. I spend upwards of a half hour doing foreplay to get to my partners orgasm. Toys are meant to enhance pleasure, they’re not competition. 80% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Toys are a perfect addition.
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