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Like the title say, we lack of doing the actual intercourse. We get along very well, we spend a lot of time together, we kiss a lot, we touch each other a lot, but we just don’t have sex. I probably should be the one to initiate, but idk, i always feel like she does not want to have sex or if she does it, she does it for me. We tried to communicate with each other about this in the last year, but we never seem to get past this issue. And right now, here we are, 2 weeks passed and no sex and there is this tension now that we must have sex and she has the same thought too which takes all the pleasure.
Anyone went through this? Any tips?
Hey man. 32m here, married for 7 years to a beautiful 28f wife. So my biggest tip is that you guys NEED to communicate more. You’re subconsciously repeating a pattern that’s not healthy for either of you and both of you need to make the change to do better and to make active steps with each other and for each other. Don’t bank on something just happening, because it won’t. It’ll turn into having to have sex just to have it, to check a box, and that leads to resentment and insecurities. Have a good conversation about this, be patient and through in it. Discuss the issue, why it started and ideas on how to resolve it. Validate each others emotions and work through it as a team. It’s not on either of you, it’s on both. Sex and love is a 2 way street and both are needed to make a change
Hahaha thank you! Also mate, sorry for the delay but I wanted to add this and I just woke. I understand what you mean. My wife and I have been together for 7 years now. However, one of the obstacles we faced was me not working well physically. Physiologically that is. I have a 9mm brain tumor called a prolactinoma that destroys my hormones. Destroys them. Due to this, and because before her, I was in an almost decade long abusive relationship ship, when I don’t have certain medication for my hormones my libido is chemically just literally not possible. Especially with my sexually abused past. Sex just wasn’t possible for a while. Because of this, like you, it created a pattern, and humans are creatures of habit. I’m telling you this to say that despite this, the answer is the same. It takes talks. I totally understand you’ve had talks, but with respect, make more. Make them serious ones. Make them loving ones. Continue to make them and make sure you’re both a part of it, and the potential solutions. Also, adding tests like the famous BDSM test to see what you’re into is a great idea. Or going to buy toys together or exploring a kink together ect. It’s totally possible to do this, and to break a pattern and make a new one, but it takes continuous work. That’s love and sex for you though. It’s worth the efforts to have these moments you wish would last forever. I believe in you 🫶
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