I’ve (30M) been together with my girlfriend for about 8 months. While the sex started off great and still is very good once we have it. For the last couple of months our frequency of sex have been decreasing immensely. My girlfriend has told me she doesn’t like the way I initiate with kisses and touches. She says my initiating is all for my own sake because I’m horny and that I do not care about her horniness. She says I need to be more dominant to build up the tension. I’m not the most dominant in bed but I of course want to accomodate my girlfriends wishes. So I’ve tried to become more dominant outside of sex as a build-up, messaging her things, telling her I want her to be a good girl and expressing I want to make her feel good. But she doesn’t respond and when we talk about it she says I’m not doing it correctly. When I ask her about what I can do to that would better match her wishes she doesn’t really have a response, she doesn’t seem to be able to express it.

So is there any ways in my mannerisms, things I can say, do, without being to upfront with wanting sex that would make her become more horny and into having sex with me? Becoming more dominant.