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I (21m) am in a new relationship with another man (21m). We have had sex three times now. Every time he has taken close to an hour of penetrative sex to finish…not including foreplay.
A few nights ago for example. We went on a date and got back to my apartment around 10pm and we started making down and by the time we were done it was past midnight. I came after maybe 15-20 minutes. It was still enjoyable after that for a little bit, but after another 10 minutes or so it started to hurt. But the time we were done I was bored, tired, and in so much pain I could barely walk.
I feel really bad because I want him to finish, and I care about his pleasure. He told me he’s always been like this and it’s not me, which I do believe him. But I’m afraid this could make me start to resent him and kill our bedroom life because to be honest it’s really hard to want to have sex when I know it’s going to last hours and end in pain.
Is there anything I can do to help him finish faster?
It really depends. Does he have a porn or masturbation habit? That can cause this issue, as it does pretty regularly. If not, he could have a sensitivity issue, and if that’s the case it might be hard to get past unless he’s edged during foreplay. Also the length or frequency of sessions can do this as it desensitizes the nerves if sex happens super frequently.
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