I have arrived! Forgive me for this layout but I created this as a reply. Took me a minute to do so, I’m sorry. So as a prelude, I am 6’0, 205lbs or so. I’m larger than average down there. My wife is 5’1, 105lbs, and we’re both very fit, and I say that to say that she is tighter than average. Since it wasn’t stated in the original message, before I post this I’ll also add that foreplay MATTERS. Especially for size differences. I spend 30-45 minutes on full body foreplay. Every erogenous zone, during which I give my partner an orgasm or two prior to penetration. This promotes vaginal tenting, which is the process in which a female gets ready, physically, for sex. It internally dialates the vagina 2-3 inches, and gets it pink, puffy, sensitive and lubricated. Even after this process it is important to use lube and to go slow. There should be no reason for bleeding if you’re going slow, using lube and making sure she’s ready. If bleeding or pain persists, go make an appt with the obgyn to make sure there’s no pathology or physiological issues.

When there’s a significant size difference between partners, choosing positions that maximize comfort, intimacy, and control is key. Here are some great sex positions for a smaller female and a larger male:

1. Spooning • Why it works: The male lies behind the female while both partners are on their sides. This position minimizes weight on the smaller partner and allows for gentle, controlled movements. It’s also intimate and allows for plenty of touching and kissing. • Tips: Place a pillow under the female’s hip for better alignment if needed.

2. Missionary with Adjustments • Why it works: With slight adjustments, missionary can work well. The male supports his weight with his arms or uses pillows to prevent putting too much pressure on the female. • Tips: The female can spread her legs wider or bend them to adjust the angle for deeper or more comfortable penetration.

3. Cowgirl (Female on Top) • Why it works: The female has full control over depth and rhythm, making it a great option for accommodating size differences. • Tips: The male can sit back against a headboard for extra support and to adjust angles.

4. Standing Positions • Why it works: If the male can easily lift the female, standing positions like the female wrapping her legs around his waist can be exciting and intimate. • Tips: Use a sturdy surface like a wall or countertop for additional support.

5. Doggy Style • Why it works: This position allows the male to control the angle and depth of penetration, making it adaptable to different body sizes. • Tips: Use pillows under the female’s knees or chest for extra support and comfort.

6. Edge of the Bed • Why it works: The female lies on her back at the edge of the bed, and the male stands or kneels in front. This minimizes pressure on the female and allows for good control. • Tips: Experiment with the height of the bed for optimal alignment.

7. Reverse Cowgirl • Why it works: Like cowgirl, this puts the female on top, but facing away. It offers control over depth and a new angle for both partners to enjoy. • Tips: Support her thighs or hips with your hands for stability.

8. Seated Positions • Why it works: The male sits on a chair or bed while the female straddles him. This minimizes size concerns and allows for face-to-face intimacy. • Tips: The female can control the depth and rhythm while using the male’s shoulders for balance.

Communication is Key • Talk openly about what feels good and what doesn’t. • Use pillows, cushions, or furniture to adjust angles and support. • Be mindful of each other’s comfort, especially with differences in size.

Exploration and experimentation can lead to finding what works best for you both.