“Hey everyone,

I’m 19 and currently feeling a bit insecure about my size. My erect penis is 4 inches, and it’s been making me worry about my sex life, especially in casual or hookup situations. It’s been something that’s been affecting my confidence, and I want to make sure I can be a good partner despite these concerns.

To add to my worries, I’m 6’2” with a deep voice, and while I know it’s not directly related to my size, I’m concerned it might lead people to assume I’m well-endowed. I really don’t want to disappoint anyone or feel like I’m not living up to expectations, so I’ve been wondering if I should bring it up with a partner before things get more intimate. Should I let them know about my size before we undress, or is that something I can keep to myself?

I’m still a virgin and, although I’m new to sex, I’m fully open to learning and being the best partner I can be. I’m more than happy to use my hands, tongue, and foreplay to make sure my partner is satisfied. While I’m not quite ready to use toys yet due to my lack of experience, I’d love to explore that option as I get more comfortable.

I know that most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone, but I’m still curious if I can make penetration enjoyable for my partner with some techniques or adjustments that might help compensate for my size. I’d really love to hear any advice on how I can approach this.

Additionally, I’m also curious about what to expect in hookup and casual sex situations. I want to be realistic and prepared for what might come while also overcoming my insecurities so they don’t affect my interactions.

I’ve also posted in other places like r/askwomenover20 and r/sexpositive, just trying to get a variety of perspectives, so I appreciate your time and patience. I’d love any advice, tips, or reassurance that could help me feel more confident and empowered going forward.

Thanks in advance for taking the time to read and respond!”