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Hey guys, I see myself answering a lot of questions so I decided to put it on a post.
I feel bad for guys all the time posting asking about what size we prefer.
You, men worry more about size when you never had one inside to know unless you are bisexual. I’m a woman in my 40’s. Have been married twice but also have also had plenty of partners before, in between and after marriages. Do you see our belly button is? Our uterus is way below there. So why would we need something that big to satisfy? Hitting and ripping the walls inside of us? Big penises might be cool to look at, but first of all, the CLIT is the most important part of a woman’s body to help her orgasm. Another overlooked is girth. Thick feels better than long “pencils.”
Also, you must understand we women do not usually think like most guys. We are not looking for body counting. We like to have sex with who WE LIKE. When I was younger, I thought I needed a big dick to be fulfilled. I was wrong. I had little experience.
Time goes on and I realized I’ve had the most orgasms with a small guy and a medium average size guy. And I would not understand because in my head I wanted big. But what’s the f goal? Isn’t it an amazing orgasm? Or is it the toy?
I don’t need to be in love but I realized there must be a good CONNECTION. I think a lot of guys are so desperate they want to go straight to packing but that will get you to orgasm, but the girl might not be satisfied. Then you wonder what you were lacking. Establish a nice conversation about anything prior to it.
Let’s get to it:
1) The obvious: Always shower before you meet a woman. Or before you leave the house. You never know when you are gonna get lucky! 🍀 Wash your privates well with soap. 🧼
2) SHAVE 🪒 around your dick and balls. Seriously. It helps the woman grinding the clit when she’s on top of you. (That’s the easiest position for a woman to orgasm)
3) LICK 👅 EVERYTHING! From the neck, ears (not too much slob there) underarms (yes, that’s weird but fuuucck), CLIT obviously, lábia, anus, between the legs, to the toes. Seriously! Sounds weird but it’s a fucking game changer!
4) Move slowly until she’s very wet and then when you hear her breathing harder, power on. 💪🏼
5) If you think you are going to orgasm too fast, pull out and hold the tip. Breath! Then go back when you can.
PS: The best lube is none of this fancy crap: it’s coconut oil. It’s anti bacterial and it doesn’t make us itch. Our skin is our biggest organ. It absorbs everything we put on it. I prefer not to put anything on my skin that I wouldn’t eat it, but I’m not a hippie and don’t want to smell like one, soap 🧼 is necessary for hygiene.
Hope that helps transform your sex life to the bad ass stud you were meant to be! But please remember we women use sex to get love while you guys use love to get sex. Women want the connection while many of you want body counting. But if you are going to use us for that, at least do it right. 😁
Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk! 🫶
Much love ✌🏼
And please do NOT message me.
As a 32yo bi male, I also find myself answering a lot of questions here. Which, as frusturating as it can seem to be that the answers are almost universally all the same, I respect and appreciate people taking the steps to at least be better partners. Or want to be. I fully 1000% agree and back everything OP says. 100%. Men indulge in porn AND then get societal masculinity views shoved at them. Humans are creatures of repetition, so enough repetitive behaviors like this bore bad opinions of ourselves. The national average is 5.5in, and honestly, that’s PLENTY. The female g-spot is 2-3 inches on the top vaginal canal. It’s an internal continuation of the clit. Sure large things and toys can be hot, but you don’t need to be hung to be a fulfilling sexual partner. I’ll repeat the main thing I tell people here: Communication is the foundation to any relationship. Especially a sexual one. To what OP listed out:
1.) hygiene is so incredibly important. Yes that means physical stimulation with soap. Not just letting soapy water run over you bits. Ass included. Also, hygiene extends to washing your hands and trimming your nails is crucial. It’s VERY easy to introduce bacteria to the vagina and cause UTI’s or infections. Also, the vaginal walls are very thin and vascular and it’s easy to scratch them. Trim and wash.
2.) It is easiest for a woman to orgasm when she controls the motion and depth and doesn’t just get jackhammered. That means riding and it really does make a difference to shave.
3.) Erogenous zones. As a paramedic I learned in depth anatomy and physiology and can attest to all of these zones being PACKED with nerves that lead directly to the vagina/groin (on men too). They will almost always illicit a STRONG physical response when licked, sucked, nibbled ect, At that, most of these zones secrete pheromones. They are: Toes, soles of the feet, backs of the knees, inside of the thighs, hips, breasts, fingers, wrists, armpits, collarbone, neck, lips and ears. (Ass and vagina/groin are obvious but also on this list)
4.) Never start with top speed. Slow and steady at first. Fill each touch with passion. Tease with gentle touches, licks, nibbles, grabs ect. Warm her up to play, just as you don’t want someone to just POUND into you off the bat. Foreplay matters immensely. Foreplay is what creates sensitivity and lubrication for your partner. When her vagina is pink, puffy and lubricated, you can experiment with intensity. This process is called vaginal tenting and is what prepares the vagina. It internally dialates the vagina by 2-3 inches to better accommodate a finger, toy or penis. An orgasm prior to penetration does this best.
5.) Give your partner an orgasm before your own orgasm. This is common respect in my eyes
Lastly, totally agreed on coconut oil. It’s a game changer. Not thick enough for anal in my opinion but excellent for most things.
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My partner and I love anal play (giving and receiving) and coconut oil rocks, I’m not downplaying it at all, and as you stated it’s healthiest to use since our bodies absorb everything. Especially internally like vaginal or rectal canals. I do prefer to use coconut oil because as a medic, I understand that fact well. But, I find we have to constantly reapply it. Our booties just absorb it like it’s nothing 😂😂 specific anal lube is much thicker and longer lasting but my lord it tastes horrible. I prefer my partners natural flavor and pheromones when I go down on them and coconut oil is a winner in that regard. So you’re def right. I just don’t know why it acts like it hasn’t drank water in years down there 🤣😂✊🏻
My partner and I love anal play (giving and receiving) and coconut oil rocks, I’m not downplaying it at all, and as you stated it’s healthiest to use since our bodies absorb everything. Especially internally like vaginal or rectal canals. I do prefer to use coconut oil because as a medic, I understand that fact well. But, I find we have to constantly reapply it. Our booties just absorb it like it’s nothing 😂😂 specific anal lube is much thicker and longer lasting but my lord it tastes horrible. I prefer my partners natural flavor and pheromones when I go down on them and coconut oil is a winner in that regard. So you’re def right. I just don’t know why it acts like it hasn’t drank water in years down there, it straight vanishes after a few minutes 🤣😂