I recently got out of a messy relationship and have been pretty sexually active in my life up until now. I was wondering if, in moving forward, it would be unfair of me to ask my future partner to wait until marriage for sex. I just feel like sex can cause emotions to develop faster than normal and also makes it easier to overlook red flags or other things that would otherwise be considered boundaries.

I know the sound of trying to find a virgin wife after sleeping with other people sounds horrible but it sounds like a dream if it were to become a reality. I’m not expecting to find anyone who hasn’t slept around a little, nor would I stop talking to someone because of it.

I know I sound like someone longing for something he’s already lost but is this something that is achievable without being an asshole throughout the relationship? Or is this just something I need to figure out with whoever I find next? I just don’t want sex to be the main thing keeping the two people together which kind of happened in my last relationship. Any guidance to help avoid that from happening while also having sex before marriage.