She's been off of them for over 8 months and still has no desire to have sex. We've talked about it multiple times and she made a new years resolution to have sex a few times a week. It's mid March and we've had sex maybe 6 or 7 times since the new year. She said it never crosses her mind and its on her backburner of things to do. I feel really ugly and like I don't perform well enough for her to want it. I tried using viagra for a couple months and while I really noticed an improvement while using it, she said she couldn't tell the difference much. It's growing tiresome being the only one who initiates sexual contact or seems to have aby interest in it. We've been together 10 years and have never had this issue