She hates/dislikes/does not want sex. Not is she much of a cuddler, hand holder or physical person at all. I try to talk about sex thruout our 7 year relationship but she always is crying thru it.

I want to talk to her without her getting upset. I love my wife, adore her, and no this will NOT make me divorce my wife. She is amazing and perfect in every way. Beautiful, no gorgeous, sexy, smart, funny, friendly, caring helpful and so much more.

But sex is 1 time a month and I can’t finish most times cuz I know she is in pain and she doesn’t like it. And then she gets mad at me cuz I can’t finish and she’s like why did we even do it if you’re not going to finish. You know it hurts.

I can’t finish cuz I know it hurts. I know she doesn’t enjoy it and she doesn’t like it. And. When I try and talk to her about it she cries and takes it as a personal attack.

We have talked about drs. She told her gyno and they told her everything looks fine sex shouldn’t hurt. So that was it and the end for her. No more drs she’s fine. But it literally takes me 5 mins to get the head in and 10 to get halfway down the shaft. This is after 5-40 mins of foreplay (until she tells me to stop)

If I make her cum with my mouth then she definitely does not want my dick in her. So then there’s that. She has another hole, won’t even think about trying it. She has a mouth. Well she thinks if she sucks for 2 mins and I didn’t. Cum it’s my fault. 2 mins of dry head once in a blue moon. And then I know I’m on a timer and she gets mad if I don’t cum fast and she again doesn’t like to suck dick so it’s not fun or pleasurable for her so I can’t cum.

How do I talk to her. I want our sex life to get better so it can become great!