I have been with my wife for 24 years. We are both still young she is 41 and I am 40. We have been each other first in everything. Our relationship has always been good and our communication is awesome because we can and have sat down to talk about anything. My fantasy has always been a threesome since day one. A threesome means another guy and me fucking her. She’s always been down for the idea but she has a fear of doing that. It has never fallen through because I always told her the final decision is on you. She’s always had a fear because she’s never been with another guy. I have told her for years it wouldn’t bother me because it’s my fantasy.

She has spoken very honestly about her fucking another guy and I have expressed myself that I enjoy the idea. In our open talks, she’s always said things like I always want to fuck that one guy or this guy, etc but then she says na it’s just a feeling of lust I don’t think I could get rid of the fear. Last month in one of our talks I told her my fantasy changed a bit. I told her instead of me being in the threesome. I rather sit back and watch her fuck another guy of her choosing as long it’s not someone we know. I told her I would masturbate while she gets fucked.

She said that idea is cool but her fear kicks in and she says na I rather not. At times she says I want to but backs off. After asking for this for so many years, I’m starting to give up on the idea. There are times when she says omg imagine me getting fucked and sucking your cock at the same time. Then she says no, I don’t think I could have the balls to go through it. She says I know it would be fun but I just don’t think I’m able to. When she says those things I always tell her I just want to see you in pleasure while fucking but she says I know but IDK. I also have mentioned this will be a one-time deal and I would never ask again.

I did ask her last month if I could share pics of her with some guys or on Reddit so random guys can do cum tributes to her pics and she said yes go ahead I don’t care about that because it’s just pics and not the real thing. Yes, I do share her pics with her permission and some guys jerk off to her or they just give me an opinion about my wife's body, etc. should I just give it up or should I give her more time until she’s ready but talk to her about it in a different way?