I don't watch porn, I don't think about sex a lot. I love having it but I don't put a lot of thought into it. My husband says that he and everyone else in the world watch porn and think about sex all the time. I thought our sex life was pretty decent, we do it a decent amount, 4-5 times a week. He's the first guy that I dated and we've been together for 19 years. Lately we've been fighting about how I don't try hard enough to get him horny and I don't provide enough play back. I just don't think about sex the same way he does. I have 8 other things I'm trying to think about or trying to get done. My first thought is not how can I suck his dick better or let me check out this porn video real quick. Is this normal? Do I just suck as a wife? How do I get myself to think about sex more when I'm trying to figure out dinner and trying to remember to feed the dogs and change the kiddie pool water for the ducks?