Hi!

I (M) have been seeing someone (nb, afab) for a little while, but we just had sex over the weekend for the first time.

It was lovely, but they are super skinny and therefore way bonier than anyone I’ve ever been with. After a few goes, I found that my pubic area—external oblique? Pelvic bone? The fleshy fatty part above the penis—was SUPER sore, and remains so a day later.

I’ve never had this happen before, and I wondered if anyone had any tips on making things feel a little more normal or less painful! Going gently was nice for a while but they definitely liked it rougher, and I’d like to be able to do that without killing myself.

Edit: I’d love ideas on how to prevent it for the future if folks have any!