tl/dr at bottom

I am new to ethical non-monogamy, after 23 years of marriage I am re-entering the dating pool. My question does not pertain to ENM as my wife and I are completely in sync there, and the moment we’re not it ends, the ENM not the marriage.

My question is this, I grew up in the 80’s and haven’t been single for a long time. I’ve been lurking on twoxchromosome and twoxsex since I joined Reddit, so I’ve stayed up to date on a lot of things, but this Friday will be our first time in bed and I’m scared I’m out of touch. She’s a generation behind me.

I’ve learned so much more about consent since I was teenager. I believe consent is sexy and the bedrock of any sexual relationship. Further I know consent can be revoked at anytime, no questions asked no pressure. I’ve trimmed down their. My hygiene is solid. I’m bringing an assortment of prophylactics and I’ve had a vasectomy so no fear of pregnancy. Neither of us have STDs, but we still intend to use a condom. I’m open minded, attentive, and willing to listen and learn what my partner needs and wants from our encounters.

What else in the last two decades has changed that I may be missing. I don’t want to embarrass myself or make her feel uncomfortable or awkward. We’ve had a lot of conversations about our preferences, but I am definitely afraid there is something people take for granted as obvious, that might have eluded me.

tl/dr I’m going to be with a new sexual partner after 23 years of monogamy; what might I be missing that younger generations might take for granted.