Hey everyone I'm a 34m, I've had this problem in and off and going on a few years now, ultimately. I've made the decision to seek professional help about it. How does everyone deal with those negative feelings around sex? I'm a very sexually liberal person, very curious, enthusiastic, I love pleasing my partners and just enjoy sex as a whole, unfortunately going on 4 years out of a toxic relationship I'm still dealing with a host of negative associations built up around sex from our relationship. I find it hard to ask partners for things, to express my interest in somthing I'm into, and even more terrified of feeling guilty if they say no, or express partial interest but far less enthusiasm than I do. It's frustrating me lately because I feel like I'm forcing myself to miss out on the exploration and discovery that has always made sex fun and made me feel closer to my partners. I know where this stems from and unfortunately my ex (we were together 5 years) had gone from being very sexual right at the beginning to completely disinterested, which always made sex a point of contention and point of anxiety and those negative associations stem from there. This really frustrates me, so on my own while I look for professional help, what can I do on my own to try and shake those negative associations?