So sorry for the dumb question, but I'm a 28 year old man and recently I've been coming out of my shell and my inner dom has awaken. I've been doing a lot of dirty talk, slapping, choking, holding the girl down, etc (all consensual of course), which is very new to me since I've been in very vanilla relationships in the past.

Here's the thing: I usually start the whole sex act by going down on the girl to the point of her cumming, then teasing her and having her perform a blowjob for me. I have noticed that when it's her turn to give me the bj, I always lie down on my back and she goes on top. Now that I'm realizing this, this is not Dom at all.

I guess my question is, should I just change it up and instead of the girl going on top and giving me the blowjob, should I just put my dick in her mouth? Like while I'm holding her down eating her out? Any advice is appreciated thanks!!!