This is a bit of a pickle so bear with me. My wife and I have great communication on almost everything, but she is painfully shy (or possibly unaware) in regards to her sexuality. A decade of marriage, two kids and we're still struggling. I posted on here recently to get a third for a threeway thinking it would build her confidence and we had great success! We messaged a nice guy on here, met up and had a really fun night less some awkwardness the next day. She was super aroused leading up to the meet and really went wild the night of. Feel free to check my post history for some context. While this was a huge step she doesn't seem to want to do it again and still can't articulate to me very well what "does it" for her beyond the usual vanilla (be nice to her, help her with her workload, love letters, etc).

This is where I could use some help. Are there any self guided questionnaires or story style vignettes she could do that would help her (in a no pressure environment) explore her feelings and possible kinks? Ideally some sort of a choose your own adventure story or video game where she could make decisions for an avatar to remove some of her inhibitions around her sexuality. We've done straight forward questionnaires in the past but she needs to google almost every item, gets embarrassed or disgusted and shuts down again. Guilt from her Catholic upbringing I suppose. Taking this a step further most games, stories and questionnaires are either very impartial or come from the male perspective taking her out of it even more. Any suggestions or ideas would be appreciated.