My wife was raised in an, "anything but sex with a spouse for procreation is dirty and sinful" house...

We're drinking more often than we used to and she's MUCH more uninhibited when she's been drinking. (100 sober nights = 1 night of sex. 10 drinking nights = 8 nights of sex)

BJ's almost never happen (1 in ten years but then 4 in the last year since we're drinking more). Last month she deep throated me for the first time ever. The next day, in a fun way, we were replaying the night and I joked, "I never knew my wife could deep throat!" I said it with bedroom eyes and a grin but apparently she felt slut-shamed and it's been an issue ever since.

"Sober-her" thinks anything but "plain sex" is slutty and bad.

I almost told her she's "vanilla sex" when she's sober so I prefer it when she's been drinking...

Should I tell her I prefer what she considers to be "slutty sex"? I'm wondering if she can grow sexually or if it'll absolutely backfire.