I am positive that women get this all the time from super-persistent men who can't take no for an answer. But as a bi male, I get this quite often from guys too. Without fail, some guy will proceed to ask me why I'm not interested and get really creepy or rude about it if I don't provide a satisfactory answer. This happens across all platforms (online dating sites, dating/hookup apps, etc.) MINUS in-person, so I'm pretty sure it's a by-product of the online trolling effect where you're more willing to do things behind a screen than in person.

I'll admit, I'm a reasonably attractive guy with an athletic build. I worked hard to get where I am and don't see myself as perfect. I also DO NOT condone body shaming or making anyone feel bad just because they're not my type. But asking this question and refusing to let go comes across to me as more of a sense of entitlement than a shot at self-improvement, and I get it from across the spectrum (i.e. older guys, younger guys, curious/discreet guys, etc.) It's obviously part of their inability to handle rejection, but IMO, this is THE MOST USELESS question anyone can ever ask, whether straight, gay, and anything/everything in between. Allow me to explain.

It used to be a sound strategy to ask the hiring manager when turned down for a job as to what you could improve upon, as a way to learn from the experience and do better in subsequent interviews. Nowadays, no one wants to say shit because employers fear getting repercussions from anything that can be remotely construed as discriminatory (it's also a great way to discriminate in secret). I've encountered this dramatic shift firsthand. But this isn't a job interview. Our sexual preferences run the gamut, and if someone prefers a partner who's taller/shorter, thinner/heavier, bigger/smaller penis, thicker/thinner penis, bigger/smaller boobs, bigger/smaller hips, different hair color, then what can you honestly do about it? Physical chemistry is important to many. And say they happen to be a racist asshole. Ok, so somehow you got them to plainly admit that they don't like "your kind." What now? You can report them, but it's not going to change who they are, or more importantly, how you feel about yourself.

So many guys feel entitled to this answer, and the reality is, someone can just not be that into you without it being anything remotely personal. Also, when in the history of ever has a discussion about rejection come around and turned into a success story? Assuming the person doing the rejecting was even polite and direct with the right amount of tact (which is rare), there's just little chance of it changing anything. I remember how frustrated I was when I was first exploring my bisexuality and started pursuing guys. I was turned down and ghosted so much, for a while I felt like no one would ever see me as attractive. Even then I never felt the need to ask. It's different if you've been in a relationship for a while that abruptly ends, but for hookups and casual flings, I'm still amazed at how some people can't let this go. It actually makes me a little sad for whatever pushed them to that point.