I have gone years without being able to come from anything other than jacking off. I'm 58. I've recently have decided to try to fix my problems. My cock has become desensitized from literally years of jacking abuse. Dry hand, "death grip" and watching too much porn. My problem is both physical and mental. Bad form during masturbation, relying on porn, anti-depressants all take a toll. My decision is to not jack off. But to only use a real mouth, pussy or my fleshlight. And watch "normal" porn. Three weeks ago I bought a Fleshlight. After about 3 times using it and not being able to orgasm. I finally was able to cum inside of my Fleshlight. Hopefully I am heading in the right direction. AMA if you are curious.

Update. I have been off my anti-depressants for about 10-15 days. I can orgasm and ejaculate a lot easier. The FleshLight has been great. (It is kind of a production, but feels great!). I've slowed down on my porn. So overall things are looking better!