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Oh good gods, I just got a message from my pal's niece's boyfriend asking for advice on giving her oral sex. Not 100% sure the best way forward here.
I mean I'm all for guys asking for advice when they don't know something but I've known the girl since she was bout 12 and it feels weird.
This started as she had asked for recommendations on where to get bdsm gear. Knowing her, I worried that she was gonna jump into stuff without doing any research and didn't want her pushing hrtsrlf and her boyfriend into stuff they weren't really ready for. She's been known to be s might headstrong at times. So I suggested that before she gets anything that we have a talk bout stuff and said I'd be happy to talk to her bf bout stuff if he's like to. Lots of guys jump into bdsm without realising the emotions it can provoke in both parties. Especially if one of them is being dragged into it.
What I then get from the bf is asking for advice on giving oral sex. Bit out of left field but ok, still, known the girl for 6 years and it feels odd knowing who the initial recipient of the advice is gonna be.
I wish I could point her in the direction of some good sources, but I can't help but feel if Google is too much then just pointing in the direction isn't going to achieve much.
I shouldn't be as surprised, the girl, has a history of wanting to "shock" the adults in her life. She's had it pretty rough, raised by single mum with her own issues with alcohol etc. I've always tried to be there for her as an adult figure that she can trust. And there have been times where she's came to me on stuff she didn't want to talk to her family about. I think I handled most of it pretty well. Still, looks like I should've put more emphasis on self research on problems. I went with the basics, pay attention to the whole area, not just the clit, emphasised paying attention to her reactions to stuff and suggested mutual masturbation and paying close attention to what she enjoys doing to herself and replicating that as best he can.
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Asking your girlfriends aunt's 42 year old male friend when she's just 18 is a bit uncomfortable, especially as her aunt, my friend, is a little free with her kicks when she feels propriety has been disregarded. :p
Besides, we had a wee incident last year where the niece managed to freak herself out by suggesting that me and her find out "how bad her daddy issues are" she got embarressed enough that she refused to speak to me for 6 months. I'd rather we didn't end up with that situation repeating itself at all.