My gf and I recently opened up our relationship. So far, we have only been using dating apps to find other sexual partners. It seems like she gets anywhere from 10 to 100 times more attention from guys than I get from girls. I have read online that allot of guys in open relationships report the same experience.

Are there better ways of approaching an open relationship which will lead to more balance in the number of sexual partners me and my gf will have without imposing arbitrary limits on how many people she can date?

Or is there a better way of conceptualizing the purpose of the open relationship so that it just does not matter to me that she gets more attention than I do? I honestly don't understand why it bothers me that she is more successful at this than I am, I don't want to think of it as a competition but I keep comparing the number of partners we have both had in my head. Has an any guy in an open relationship found the key to truly letting go of these insecurities?