Wife and I play with other couples and single girls. Have for ten plus years. We've got one couple we see every few months, a girl we see monthly and recently met another girl (sucks to be us, right).

Wife didn't hit it off with the most recent girl in the bedroom. Girl was au natural (full bush) which turned the wife off, and she occasionally smokes (which wife doesn't like, doesn't bother me). I got along well and felt that she preferred me anyway.

Wife is happy for me to continue having fun with her by myself (wife has heaps of interest from Tinder).

My question is, how should I/we say to the girl "my wife doesn't want to play with you, but I do" without seeming rude or like it was all just a game for me to get her?