Hello all!

Been a while since I've posted to Reddit (I hope some of you found my post about Female-Led Sex to be useful :)

The run up to October has been very exciting in the past year or two for me and my husband, and I'd like to share why that is, and the corresponding fun challenge (at least how we see it) for all of you adventurous redditors out there to follow along with if you want to!

Background

So what's all this about? Well, simply put, I love it when my husband is horny. He's always so attentive and intimate when he's riding high on testosterone. Foreplay is lengthy and great, and I just adore seeing how hot and bothered I'm making him. Great. So what's the problem? Well, I noticed that as soon as hubby orgasms, a lot of that emotional intensity and togetherness slips away. It's like someone's turned off the sex valve and decreed that it's time for bed. Not good I want more!

Now a couple of years ago, I stumbled across the 'Locktober' challenge, which for a short period gave us a break from the above cycle, and I want to explain how we've approached it, had a lot of fun with it, and challenge some of you more daring partners-of-men-who-need-to-give-back-a-bit out there to try it this year too!

Cut to the Chase

I'm taking control of my husband's cock for the entire month of October (he'll be aiming to not have a single orgasm in the month), and here's how and why we love that.

It Started Out as a Dare

After writing my last post and talking a bit about Chastity Devices, I got quite a few messages asking whether I ever locked up hubby for extended periods of time. In truth, we'd played around with his cage a little, but only on a session-by-session basis, and so this got me thinking (and researching) and I eventually came across the idea of Locktober, in which I'd deny him for an entire month. I dared him to try it, saying I thought with how horny he gets there'd be no way he could make it, but like a good little subby hubby he agreed to give it a try, and the rest is history.

I'm not going to go through exactly how that first month went (it was a great learning experience for both sides), and I'm not going to talk about exactly how October became special each year for us, or how our approach to the challenge evolved over time. Instead I'm going to jump into the details of exactly where we are right now, and what Locktober will be looking like for us this year. Please take from this as much or as little as you'd like - even if you are only inspired by a small portion, that will be my job done here :)

The Rules

1. Partner may not orgasm until they have earned it by serving you for the month of October
2. You may increase or decrease the number of days this applies to according to the below 'adjustments' section (good/bad behaviour)

Keeping Him Chaste

So how do we make sure he upholds his end of the bargain? A few options:

1. Chastity cage - perhaps a bit intimidating if you've not come across the idea before, but at the end of the day these are just another type of sex toy. In our experience metal ones are the best.
2. Honor system - no money for a cage? can't find one that fits? an honor system can work very well if your partner is trutworthy with this kind of thing.

Extra Ideas:

Day 0

So your partner has agreed to joining you in something quite a bit different for a month! Excellent. I think they deserve a reward for being a willing slaveparticipant. On September 30th, the final day before the challenge begins, encourage your partner to have as many orgasms as they possibly can. "That's it baby! come nice and hard for me. One month will just fly by with how much you've come in me tonight! Shall we go for another?". Of course the real purpose here is quite devilish. I think we all know that the harder and more numerously your partner comes on day 0, the hornier and more sensitive they'll be on day 1, and on every other day after that ;) Day 0 is both their little prize for saying yes to your game, and a naughty way of making the month ever so hard for them. And let's not forget all of the sex we'll be getting whilst they try to come as much as possible!

Daily Oral

To keep your partner on edge, have them eat your pussy every night before bed. "Aw I know you want to come so badly, lie down for me so I can sit on your face baby. If you make me come nice and hard I'll unlock you for 10 minutes. Maybe I'll even stroke you a little"

Strapons for him Cocks are great fun right ladies? It'd be such a shame for it to mean, just because our partner is taking on the one month no orgasm challenge, that we have to give up cock. Well think again! I love having hubby wear a strapon over his cage. Sex makes me so wet knowing he's all trapped in his little cage all whilst I'm enjoying our lovely replacement for as long as I like. (I know this drives him crazy)

Strapons for her You know what else we can do with a strapon? Help our partner admit their deep desire to be our little slut. Trust me, there's nothing like a month without the hope of pleasure from their cock to make your man beg to be stretched out and bent over like the horny, desperate sub that they all are deep down. It turns out there's still a way for them to get plenty of sexual pleasure this month, it's just rather naughty.

Facesitting With all the oral you'll be getting this month, why not try claiming what's yours, rather than passively receiving. Have tonight's orgasms whilst he's pinned down and buried between your cheeks. I can promise his denial will have him going crazy whilst under there - you should even be able to watch his little soft cock trying to bounce around in it's cage.

His New Orgasm I mentioned before about plentiful use of your strapon becoming something your man will likely start to ask for (make him earn it of course ;). Well you see some amazing things can happen when a guy is denied for a long period of time. The more you deny him and gently start to work fucking him into your regular routine, the more his body will adapt and accept your pounding as it's standard intimate pleasure. Before the end of the month, it is very possible that you'll work your man into a denied and kinky enough spot that his body will start to experience orgasm and a form of ejaculation from anal penetration alone. I fully allow, and even encourage, my partner to experience this, and if I'm being honest, I think for me, 'forcing' this type of orgasmic change in my man, from an active, hard, and ejaculating orgasm, to a soft, passive orgasm of moaning, leaking and being fucked, is my absolute favourite thing to achieve with Locktober.

Of course you may have different focuses and goals, so sit down and talk about it with your partner (communication is key :)

Her New Orgasm Is whatever I damn well please it to be, because when my man is all locked up, you can bet he's willing to do whatever he thinks will get me to unlock him. Generally though, here are a few special ways I enjoy climaxing during locktober:

1. Riding a nice thick dildo in front of him whilst commenting that it's such a shame he's chosen to stay all soft and subby tonight. His cage is guaranteed to twitch when I start talking about how this nice big thick cock is going to get so much more action than he will this month.
2. Having him give me a slow, boob massage with lots of oil, and then finishing my pussy with his tongue whilst my nipples are still tingling
3. Masturbating myself with our vibrator whilst having tied him up. Sometimes I don't let him watch and he's only allowed to listen. Sometimes I straddle his face to tease him with a great view whilst there's nothing he can do about it
4. Cumming hard on our double-ended strapon whilst watching him leak in doggy-style purely from the feel of me inside him

Good/Bad Behaviour Unlike a lot of couples who try the locktober challenge, I like my husband to know that his positive behaviour genuinely can get him out early. I find the combination of carrot and stick below to be a much more amusing use of his time in chastity that just a fixed 30 day challenge. Plus it lets me gently encourage him to push his boundaries ;)

1. Intentional Orgasm: the game is over, don't put effort into this kinky game if he won't take it seriously
2. Accidental Orgasm: 10 days
3. Asking me, or hinting to me, that I should remove his cage: 1 day
4. Failure to actively offer oral sex before bed: 1 day
5. Agreeing to Locktober 2020: -1 day
6. Suggesting a new tease/denial method which I think is hot: -1 day
7. Suggesting something new in the bedroom which I go on to enjoy: -1 day
8. 1 week straight of oral orgasms achieved for me: -1 day
9. He ejaculates whilst being fucked by my strapon: -2 days
10. He agrees to clean my pussy with his tongue when he eventually is allowed to come: -2 days
11. Agreeing to No-Nut-November (the same but for November): -7 days (my goal is to offer such a big prize, a lovely early orgasm, that if he can't take the challenge any more, then he just ends up digging himself into a bigger and bigger hole)

That's it for now guys! That got a bit long, I might write a bit more if people have questions.

Have a great October all ;)