Throughout life I’ve always been a ‘generous’ lover. In past relationships I’ve always made sure my partner orgasms during sex either through oral, penetration with clit stimulation or well, whatever is most intense for her.

Now and then I haven’t orgasmed. , this may just be due to her climaxing then us falling asleep or her wanting to cuddle. It’s never become a problem.

I’ve been with my gf for one year (38yrs I’m 35yrs). She’s quite shy and in fact a little inexperienced so what turns her on most is intimate sex through penetration. No kinky extras. I’m totally fine with this and I love her very much and love sex with her. The first few times we had sex I ensured she was very pleased and had several orgasms. She was suitably impressed at first. However there has been a few times where she’s climaxed and I’ve found it difficult to get back into the rhythm.

She doesn’t feel confident giving a handjob or oral. She gets sore very quickly (around 20mins) although lubrication isn’t an issue it’s a size thing.

So at times theres a lot of pressure on me to ‘cum quick’. Lately, she’s appeared to really want me to climax inside her. Increasingly, it seems that this is something that really makes her happy.

Obviously, to me that is the most amazing feeling. I wonder if I’m focusing too much on giving her sexual pleasure and forgetting the pleasure she’ll feel knowing I’m satisfied.

So, is having your partner climax inside you a bigger deal than I’ve previously thought? I guess if my partner isn’t comfortable with oral or using her hand this is the only way - we all like to see the person we love satisfied.

We have talked a few times but she just says she’s happy if I’m happy.

At times I even wonder if that sensation etc is actually something that is a huge turn on for her. Maybe ‘her thing’.