I've been reading a lot about women who have been sexually assaulted by men and it has got me thinking about my actions whenever I wanted sex from my previous GFs or FWB or casual encounters. The line between being confident and being aggressive is sometimes blurred. Would women be ok with a guy asking if he can kiss her at every opportunity or does he have to know when it is ok to make the first move? I understand each situation is different but what are the new rules.

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To give everyone a little context about why I am making this post. I was talking to this very sexy and beautiful woman online in the morning other day. I offered to make her breakfast, but also told her that I had to pick up my brother from the airport in a couple of hours. She accepted my offer in terms of coming over, but didn't want to have breakfast and instead wanted us to have a quickie. The guy side of me didn't even hesitate for the opportunity to have sex but when she arrived the self-conscious side of me said "let's be a gentleman and make her breakfast." I proceeded to make her breakfast but she said we don't have time for that, let's go into the bedroom. Even when she proceeded to get into my bed and slightly undress herself, I desired to talk to her a bit more. She was a bit surprised by this action and we proceeded to talk about our career choices. The whole entire time she way lying in my bed while I was at the foot of the bed talking to her. I don't even know why I didn't even get into the bed with her. When I was finally ready to make my move, she was no longer in the mood for sex (total time from her getting into the bed to me making a move was about 5-10 mins). Since that day, I have been reliving this experience. Should I have been super aggressive as soon as she walked through the door? Should I have just carried her to the bedroom with no small talk at all? All these questions are still going through my head. In her eyes, I wasn't disrespectful but she probably wanted me to be less timid in my advances. I think I lost my mojo.

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TL;DR. After reading all these stories about women being sexually assaulted by men, I was not able to seal the deal on my most recent casual encounter.