We are madly in love. We have dated on and off for 7 years and are currently living together and we have a great relationship. Thing is I am a really horny person, I want sex like all the time. But he doesn't. It's hard to get anything out of him more than every couple of days. I love him to death but I need more. I mean I've had a bad past with sex and so I think it has turned me to BDSM in order to get turned on. We can make out passionately and not a single thing will happen. Now the problem he is a huge huge lover. He does not have a kinky side to him unless it is so odd he feels scared to tell me. I am trying to find that kinkyness.

I've tried asking and asking but it doesnt seem to work. I love love love being choked and spanked and tied up but he does not seem to like taking control or he is too scared to. I am at a loss and really need some insight. I need some more help from him. I'm horny a lot and he isnt. I tell him I need some alone time to take care of myself sexually and he wont let me be but he won't help me take care of myself sexually.

Any help?? Sorry it's so long