my partner likes to be choked during sex. typically this ends up being squeezing with one hand from some variation of top position. im right handed and after a session she experiences neck pain for days where my right thumb lands on her neck

were careful to avoid the windpipe and the pressure applied is squeezing from the sides rather than pushing down

in the moment she says it does not hurt but her attention could be elsewhere. in the days after, she describes the pain as a bruised type feeling rather than nerve pain or even a strained muscle

i dont feel im squeezing that hard. could anyone comment or potential causes or better mechanics that could mitigate some of the lingering pain