I've finally figured out why my cock doesn't work the way it used to. In short, it takes physical stimulation to get it hard and continued contact for it to stay that way. When treated this way it stays fully erect and I don't have problems once things are going. Secondly, I have a very hard time orgasming. Yeah, a lot of people are going to 'death grip' this, but that's not it. Turns out both are side effects of two drugs I need to take to stay healthy. Given that with a cooperative partner, all goes fine, I figure that's a good tradeoff.

However, with a casual partner/hookup, how can I let her know that

a) I do find her hot. She need not worry about the soft cock while we're making out. (Oh, and I'm a 'grower' so it's really not impressive in that state) b) It WILL be thoroughly adequate for her pleasure c) That I need just a bit of help to make it fun d) I might not be able to cum from PIV but would really enjoy working on any way she likes to help me cum.

Kinda awkward laying it out like that. Any tips?