I have had many struggles with sex over the course of my life. I always try to find a reason so that I may solve my problems because sex is really important to me. Something I've noticed recently is that whenever I masturbate, it is never to the thought of myself with someone. As long as I have been masturbating, it has been about others. I try to think of myself with other males, females, objects, in all sorts of positions and situations and with all types of BDSM but when I include myself in the picture, I stop being turned on. However, the same situation with two (or more) other people, though, will turn me on and allow me to continue touching myself. I have never orgasmed with partner, with my longest relationship being around 3 and 1/2 years. I was wondering if the two were connected, and if so, what do I do about it?