This has been a problem with me for more than a year and a half. I just swallow my sex-drive whole. I have this great boyfriend but the sex is just ... Bland. I just have sex and then it's over and that's that. We do BDSM stuff too so it isn't bland like that, it's just sex. And it's straight to the point sex.. I can't even pinpoint what would make it better because everything would make it better. Whatever it is, I want to be sweating because it felt that good. I want to be hot and heavy. I want to be turned on and wet. I can't take what we do anymore but I just keep doing it.

I just want to be really fucked. I want to orgasm. I want to express to him that 15 minutes of total sexual contact isn't enough for me. But I feel like I can't ask for more. 15 minutes is a long time already. I'm not ok and this sexual suppression is slowly killing me. I hope that my sex drive just goes away so that I can be happy with what I have because suppressing it hurts so much. And we have sex and I have to contain myself when it's done because I am always left so high and dry and it makes me feel heart broken so I have to shut down right after so I don't break down.

This has been a problem for me for over a year and a half (since we started having sex) and I'm just losing it. He feels horrible too. That's the worst is he knows something is wrong and he wants to fix it but I don't know how to let him in and be open. And it isn't being open about it once, It's being open every time during sex and I don't know how to do that. I would have to constantly tell him that what we just did wasn't enough and that's so horrible. I don't know how to communicate my sexual frustration like that.

If your advice is to break up with him then I suggest you move on to another text-post. I don't need that type of advice. I need real advice. Something to really help me through this.