She's 23 and Chinese. We've been closely together over a year. To be clear, she is a sexual person. Definitely not shy or prudish in the physical sense at least.

The physical intimacy is otherwise fine as we've always been very close like that. However, from the beginning, she has never brought up sex or talked about it unless I do so first. Even then, she only gives short replies or just a confusing smile-laugh.

Never once has she let me know or even suggested that she is horny. If I never initiated sex with her, we never would have had sex even once over close to a year and a half now, although she never ever turns it down. This is super frustrating because sex for me is all about feeling her excitement and pleasure and I'm always blind to it. I feel like she doesn't need sex at all. Also, I don't get spontaenous offers of sexual intimacy that I offer to her all the time.

I super enjoy discussing about sex and fantasies with her (and I've let her know this multiple times) but it feels like talking to a brick wall with little passion. The irony is we've tried some freakier things that she has really appreciated, but she would never bring these things up herself or put in any effort into making them real again in the future.

The kinkier stuff aside, we have PIV sex much less than when we first met. There is a physical issue in that I'm too big for her, but it didn't used to be so much as an issue. I've asked a couple times if there is anything I can do different or better for her, or try different techniques and I just get "I don't know. I'm just like that. I love your dick".

She is quite a blunt person; and due to her oral English not being as natural as mine, conversations in general are generally a chore. I definitely see this as a component of the issue, but I feel like it's not everything. Her written English is immaculate and she is very clear over text.

It's been an issue in my mind for a very long time now. Sex is super important to me for a relationship and I always feel like it's been one-sided. I always feel nervous and as though it's annoying to start a discussion on it and I hate that.

Any advice for me here?