I’ve (22f) been exploring my kinks for at least a few years now on my account here, in a solid research-fantasise way, and seem to have uncovered a great deal about myself. My struggle is, a lot of these sexual preferences are, well, a lot I guess.

I write smut about them, ask on different subs for hypothetical advice, ask around for other people’s experiences, etc. mostly as I feel a little uncomfortable going after a lot of it in person at this stage of my life.

I try to keep an open mind (within legality and consent) and just..feel it out. But I still struggle with the shame element.

I’m curious if this fades with age, or if there’s something genuinely problematic about how I navigate looking into my kinks (namely more taboo ones like inc-st (really the humiliation element, more than the inc-stuous part), cnc, humiliation, parentifying partners and very disproportionate age/experience/power dynamics in partnerships.

From other bdsm and sexually experienced people, what’s your take on this kind of thing?