Hello! I’m currently saving to go on a vacation to the Netherlands. It will take me a while to save up all the funds, so my timeline is that I’ll go in 2026. I was originally thinking about going to the Netherlands for two weeks around King’s Day, but I have just been inspired to change up those plans…

My long distance boyfriend is going to Darklands festival in Antwerp Belgium later this month (he’s a very talented fisting bottom so this event is perfect for him), and his plans have inspired me to possibly change my plans around sexy, kinky, slutty events.

Can I get recommendations for events in Europe that I can plan my vacation around?

Some parameters that are specific to my situation:

(1) I am a transgender man. I have been on testosterone since January 2021. As of now I have not had top surgery, but hopefully by 2026 I will have had my top surgery. I share this to make it clear that I already am gender ambiguous right now, but come vacation time, I’ll be much more masc-presenting (this can impact which events I am welcomed at). In short, I need events that are trans-inclusive, specifically trans-masc inclusive.

(2) I am pansexual. I’m open to all gender situations, but not all orientation situations. When I am with masc people, I tend to prefer gay-identifying mascs (definitely not straight-identifying mascs). When I’m with fem people, I tend to prefer pansexual/bisexual-identifying fems (definitely not lesbian-identifying fems).

(3) I’m polyamorous and in an open relationship. (There is a difference between open and polyamorous, but in my case that nuance is irrelevant because my relationship is both polyamorous and open). Anyway, I just want to clarify that in case anyone had a question about that.

(4) the vacation will be for two weeks, and must include some time in the Netherlands (that’s where my bf lives), but I’m open to other countries.

(5) I love going to kinky events where I get to watch professionals do what they do best, AND I also love going to kinky events where I can participate and or be on the receiving end of (say) a gangbang. I already attended those type of events in my area/region.