I’m relatively inexperienced when it comes to sex, but I am very confident in the fact that I know what I’m interested in and what I want to explore, however, expressing it is starting to feel impossible.

The few times I’ve started building something with someone, there’s been a lot of boundary-pushing before anything even began physically, and it’s made me unsure of how to proceed. I find myself feeling unfulfilled with my desires, but I also know that I only want to experience them in a way that feels safe & nurturing. I just feel like I don’t know how to approach the topic with men I’m dating and when I do it’s either people who know what they want with very little regard or care for what I want. I used to love the idea of giving up control completely, but it now feels like I’m putting myself in unsafe situations willingly, which immediately takes the sexy out of it.

Is there something your partner did/ said that let you know that they were someone you could be vulnerable with