I see so many couples especially older or couples with kids say once a week is good and grabbing a quickie here or there is a good sex life. Now to clarify I don't expect sex every day. I don't even expect it once a month. How often is irrelevant. My point is if you are into something then it form a greater part of your life.

If you love food it doesn't mean you eat non stop. But you should think about it. You should try new things. Cook when you can. And on and on. That applies to everything. If you are into it then it should be more than being switched off then doing that thing every now and again.

To me having a healthy libido/sex drive is not how many times you do it. It's how passionate you are about it. If you love it then I would expect you think about sex often. You fantasise about things. You plan and research doing different things. Think about a new toy. Whatever it is. Not obsessively but a few times a week. If sex is just about doing it once a week/twice etc and nothing else then to me you arnt that into sex.

If you said you were football mad. Then I would ask who you support. Who your favourite player is etc. If you said I have no idea I just watch the match when I can then to me yeah you might like football but you arnt that into it.

Does that make sense? Is it just me? Are people really into sex or they just want to get off every now and then to release the tension. If its about tension then just masturbate and be done with it

Do I expect too much