I have known Jane for about 8 years. It has always been a flirty relationship sometimes really hot, sometimes pretty cold. We sort of drift in and out. She may go through periods of sending me lots of nudes, lots of talk and then drifts out of it. We have never hooked up, but at times we will be hanging out and she she ask/beg to suck my dick. I'v become a little indifferent to the outcome at this point in time.

She does take a lot of interest in hearing about who I'm sleeping with. Usually wants details and pics. I always resist, because then she will get jealous, angry and retaliate. All the while not wanting to hook up. She has expressed interest in watching me with other women.

I should note there is no money or favors involved here, definitely not a sugar daddy situation.

Can anyone help me understand her specific kink or thoughts here and help me leverage this?