When I was married to my former spouse, she shamed me for anything that was not just sexual intercourse. It was not setting a boundary; she conveyed disgust I would be interested in anything beyond sex. In previous relationships I loved going down on women, and they all enjoyed it. I am 53M and have begun fantasizing about going down on women and giving pleasure to someone that way. I don’t expect anything in return. Is this abnormal? How would I even pursue this? Would women find it strange I just want to give oral? It has been four years since we divorced and 10 years since I’ve had any sexual interaction whatsoever. Any advice to get over the shame? I h8 that I feel this way.