I'm 24 F, and have been with my boyfriend 30 M, for about 5-6 months. I've gone through one divorce, and my boyfriend now is SO MUCH BETTER than my ex ever was. He's very physically affectionate, just like i am, and we've never once had an argument about anything since we've been talking for almost a year. I've never been happier than i am now, and the sex is good, except for one problem - i have very weak orgasms and sometimes i literally can't tell if i have finished or not.

Now don't get me wrong, his fingers are MAGIC and he has me twitching all over the bed and it feels nice, but i can never bring myself close to orgasm. It's like i forgot how to "let go". I've tried to focus on the orgasm, and not focus on it and relax and just enjoy the feeling. I've tried tingling more sensitive lube. But nothing works so far.

Now i've always had a very high sex drive. My ex...did not. And that brought on a lot of self confidence issues for me. To go from someone who sighs annoyingly when i ask for it to someone who is like "yes let's go" is a nice turnaround. In the past with my ex, the only outlets i had were masturbation, audiobooks, and porn. To the point where i have a few specific scenarios in my head when i do orgasm. But lately even that has started to fail. I can get close on my own, but I can't "let go" anymore for whatever reason. I try to think of all the fun times with my boyfriend, but that doesn't work either.

I've smoked weed in the past, and it helped me relax and open my mind and just go with the feelings. But I've stopped smoking. I also remember with my ex the sex got really better after I started taking an adhd stimulant, like everything felt physically better and more sensitive, but the prescription cost too much, so I stopped taking it.

So if i stopped masturbating and my only sexual stimulation was with him would i become more sensitive? Has any other woman had this problem but eventually fixed it? Please help, all advice is welcome.