Hi everyone,

I wanted to share some thoughts and experiences about a fantasy my girlfriend and I have been discussing, and I’d love to hear your advice or similar stories.

A while ago, my girlfriend told me about an intimate experience she had during a trip to Mallorca with a friend. They got close while swimming in the sea, and when she first told me, she was worried about how I’d react. I reassured her that my trust wasn’t affected, and over time, I even shared with her that I found the story exciting. This led to more open conversations between us about fantasies, and I started sharing some of mine as well.

When we engage in playful or intimate talk, I’ve told her that I’d love to watch her with another man or even with a couple. I’ve also shared that I’d enjoy being involved afterward in some way, which she finds intriguing. While we don’t talk about these fantasies very often – maybe every few months – whenever the topic comes up, it’s clear that it excites both of us.

Now, I’m wondering how realistic it might be to explore these ideas further and how we could approach them together in a way that feels safe and positive for our relationship. Has anyone here had similar experiences or advice on how to make fantasies like this a reality? How do you find the right people or situations, and how do you maintain trust and intimacy while exploring something new?

Thanks for reading, and I appreciate any insights you might have!

TL;DR: My girlfriend and I have discussed fantasies about her being with another man or a couple while I watch, and she finds the idea exciting. These conversations started after she shared an intimate experience from her past, which I later admitted I found intriguing. We only discuss this occasionally, but I’m wondering how realistic it would be to explore these fantasies and how to approach it in a way that keeps our relationship strong. Looking for advice on how to navigate this and find the right people or situations.