I'm in a 4 year relationship with my bf(M24) who is great in bed but it's just very vanilla. I don’t mind but it’s been vanilla every time for 2 years now. It wasn't always like this, in the beginning it was a perfect blend of soft and aggressive. I try to bring it up and suggest things but nothing still. I don't know what to do. Sometimes I'll watch videos on twitter and I imagine it's him and I but I still feel bad about doing it. I don't know what to do. Do I talk to him about it again? I also don’t want to pressure him into doing things he doesn’t like but most times I try talking about our sex life he kind of just jokes it off.