Before I start, I want to say that I don't particularly want to share my age (I am a male over 18) in this for personal reasons. Just an fyi.

So I've been really pondering about this issue lately where sex and sex related activities just don't seem very attractive to me, as I mentioned in the title. I am okay with other mildly erotic activities (I won't go into detail), but anything to do with my own genitals in any way makes me really uncomfortable (handies, other things like that). My girlfriend (also over 18) has been really loud to me about her eagerness to have sex, and for a while now I've been avoiding tbe issue thinking "this will pass eventually and I'll feel ready" which is not the case so far. She hasn't been pushy at all and has respected my boundaries, so thats not my problem here.

Another thing to note is that not once in my life have I ever pleasured myself. In fact, I haven't even ejaculated in my life (I doubt I'm incapable, I've just never done anything serious enough to cause me to). Similarly to sex, that thought also makes me uncomfortable. The thought of watching any kind of pornography that has to do with sex has also never been something I've been interested in.

This has all been really confusing to me, so I decided instead of sweeping the problem under the rug, I would do the best thing you can do; ask reddit. So, can anyone explain this to me? Is it just something that will fix itself naturally? Should I talk to a therapist? Is it some kind of sexuality I'm unaware of? Asexual doesn't feel right to me because, as I said, I still feel attraction to women and all the usual parts. just never the need for sex. If im just misunderstanding what asexuality is, please tell me.

Thank you for reading my short story, I really would appreciate some help with this!!

TL:DR I like erotic activities, but nothing to do with my own genitals. I've never self-pleasured. I am a virgin male, over 18. I want to know more about this and possibly find a solution/work-around.