I’ve [M36] been with my wife [F38] for 10 years and have only now started to understand her kinks (she isn’t super open about these things but I am also inexperienced outside of her). And here’s what I’ve discovered:

She likes when I take control She likes when I spank her/punish her Talking dirty and how “bad” she’s been

Now these have been doing well, but based on my inexperience (and previous posts on here about staying hard), my confidence isn’t super high. So taking control isn’t very natural to me, nor is talking dirty or just coming up with new things to say or do to her.

Spanking is great, but we live with my mother in law and she can definitely hear us in the other room, so loud noises is off the table. Is there a “quiet spanking” device?

Any tips for being more dominant when it doesn’t come naturally to me (even though I find it super hot dominating her), and just more things to say or do would be amazing

PS: she also likes the fantasy of other guys being interested in her/flirting with her, but unsure how to approach that one