For men here, can you explain what it is you like about your partner being with other men?

I 26F started dating a guy and the first times we had sex were really great. After a few weeks, he’d ask about other dates I’d been on, if I was seeing anyone else, etc. At first I was hesitant and thought he was jealous, later on I realized he was into it. He asked to see texts with other guys I was talking with and the fantasy came more into light as we got more comfortable.

Now we’re a bit more serious & I just came home for thanksgiving. He specifically asked me to see some guys here and to come home to tell him about it. The fantasy is a lot fuller and more robust than I realized. I don’t mind it. I find it fun but I’m curious about the why??? It’s unusual to me as most men I’ve been with are kinda possessive.

In a lot of ways, our dynamic favors me being more submissive. Though we switch a bit, he likes a little slapping and spitting which was different for me. When I ask him he says it’s like he’s in control of me when I go out and do it for his enjoyment… like I’m his pornstar for example. He’s into me being used/acting slutty but coming back to him. It’s also like a rouse, he wouldn’t talk about it and likes that otherwise I’m a sweet seeming girl, the kind he could show off and introduce to people. Can anyone illuminate this specific kind of fantasy more if they are similar?