I’m in a long term relationship (9 yrs) with a woman; I’m also female, although pretty masculine and most people assume I’m non-binary (I just don’t care about labels). I’ve mostly been in relationships with other women, but have had sex with a handful of men in my life.

My partner and I are opening our relationship for casual sex, and I want to have sex with a man. I don’t know how to go about this. So many people say that men will fuck anything that moves and things like that, but I’m genuinely concerned about finding a man that will want to have sex with me. I experienced a lot of rejection in my teen years, so maybe that’s still affecting me.

I’m into cis men who are conventionally handsome, muscular, and masculine. I guess I’m just wondering if anybody thinks a butch, chubby, muscular, tattooed, weirdo non-binary looking woman is going to be attractive to someone like that. I’d prefer to stay off the apps if possible.

Have I just been out of the hooking up scene so long I forget that it’s easy to find someone to fuck? Or is it a legit concern that men aren’t going to find me attractive?